6 EASY ways for a  mindset that will change how your body births

6 EASY ways for a mindset that will change how your body births

Who are these women who  keep on having these amazing, positive , empowered birth experiences ?

You know the women I am talking about …

During pregnancy they are so positively anticipating their birthing day, they trust their bodies, think birth is normal, manage the course of their births, they smile lots, they look relaxed and they almost cannot wait to birth and when they do their experience is so  positive they want to SHOUT IT FROM THE ROOFTOPS. Gosh, some lucky ones even report orgasms.

So how do these women do it ? How do they birth so stunningly?

Social psychologist, Barbara Frederickson says that positive mindset or strategies that promote positive emotions have the potential to influence our psychological and physical wellbeing and in turn help us flourish. Her work showed that people who are surrounded on a daily basis of a range of  positive tools actually had better connections with others, saw  broader possibilities, had  wider field of vision, more energy when compared to  people who had  neutral or negative  images and information given to them.

Could this knowledge also be applied to birth?

Can daily doses of positivity during pregnancy actually improve our emotions which increases our chances of flourishing in birth?

Ina May Gaskin has been quoted as saying “Even if it has not been your habit throughout your life so far, I recommend [during pregnancy] that  you learn to think positively about your body.”

Ina knows it … thoughts work.  They just need to be the optimum!

Nourish your mind with the following 6 mindset strategies during pregnancy and you will be on your way to the zone for satisfying and remarkable birth.

1.Build positive habits of mind about birth using AFFIRMATIONS

Affirmations are statements that  reinforce a desired way of thinking for birth eg:

  • My body is designed to give birth.
  • I birth calmly and easily.
  • I look forward to my baby’s birthing day.

Affirmations are displayed prominently, read, listened to and spoken daily and eventually, through repetition these new thoughts become ingrained in your being. They keep  new thoughts about pregnancy and birth, in the  forefront of the mind.

2. Imagine (like really imagine)  yourself having an amazing labour and birth!!!

The unconscious mind cannot distinguish between what is real and what is imagined.  I will repeat this so it really sinks in.

Your mind cannot work out if you are actually in labour or you are just IMAGINING being in labour.

So spend lots of time visualizing your “best case” birth.

Find a birth you love on the Hypnobirthing Australia You Tube channel and put yourself in the picture. Add your birth partner, your pet dog (?), your birthing space, all the things that you are planning to do…then visualize  yourself breathing  effectively, relaxing your facial muscles, drinking water, moving around, smiling, being in water, changing positions, being supported and  YOU basically rocking your birth !!!

Read positive birth stories  and listen to the stories from women who have had empowered births.  It honestly makes a difference.

3. Use self hypnosis tracks during  pregnancy for labour and birth

Self hypnosis is a completely natural state in which we go into many times a day – when you fall asleep, wake up, read a book, cry at a movie, lose track of time and distance when driving, and even when you get those “stare bears”.  It’s a super relaxed state of mind.  Basically during pregnancy, you  can condition your  mind to get very good at getting very relaxed, very quickly so that your body can birth your baby calmly and gently.

Self hypnosis can also release any limiting thoughts or feelings that will get in the way of a positive and fulfilling birth experience.

You can download tracks that incorporate self hypnosis techniques or book into classes that teach self hypnosis for birth.  Self hypnosis  tracks  incorporate guided relaxation, positive affirmation and  messages straight to your unconscious mind so they are really helpful in maintaining your optimum mind set for birth.

4. Choose your words wisely

Sticks and stones may break your bones and in birth your words may hurt you. What!?

Close your eyes and think of the word pain?  What does it feel like?  What does your body do when in pain? What has been your experience of pain thus far?  I don’t know about you but my body tends to tense up. I want to brace myself against the feeling and strong  pain will often penetrate my mind in an all encompassing way.

Tensing up and consuming negativity isn’t helpful in labour or birth. It can pop you in a spiral down to depths you may not want to go.

Pain is indeed having your hand chopped off but you are birthing a baby- it’s different- it’s functional intensity.

So think carefully about how you phrase the sensations your body will feel during your labour.

Will you call them Tightenings? Drawing up? Pressure? Intensity? Discomfort?

If you choose to think  pain that is what you will get …trust me !!!

5. Get a good nights sleep

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Image courtesy of Angela Gallo

Sleep and mood are interlinked – good sleep affects a more positive mindset and interestingly mood also affects the amount and quality of sleep too.   It is during sleep when we rest,  learning transfers to long term memory, our bodies restore and repairs.

A good night sleep raises spirits, energy levels and the world always looks a little brighter and the benefits cannot be more important than during pregnancy.

6. Book into a hypnobirthing course.

Hypnobirthing is a “game changer” when it comes to altering mindset for positive birth.

In  hypnobirthing, positive mindset for birth is created with effective and proven techniques taught to maintain that mindset for a satisfying and empowered birth experience.

You will learn how to apply visualization, affirmation, self hypnosis and guided relaxation skills.  It’s clearly a comprehensive package designed to help you feel confident in your ability to birth.

So if I can conclude please let me, let you  in on a little wisdom about birth.

It’s all in the preparation and  you have probably worked out  by now that I’m not talking preparation of our bodies…

It is preparation of the mind.

When women prepare the mind in pregnancy, in the absence of a special circumstance, the body  follows suit.

That’s it –

“She believed she could. So she did …”(unknown)


Cindy Fenn is the face behind Big Hearted Birth which teaches woman how to achieve a positive and calm birth experience through hypnobirthing skills and techniques.

For more information and bookings with Cindy go to www.bigheartedbirth.com.au

Big Hearted Birth teaches Hypnobirthing Australia courses in Caulfield, Melbourne, Australia 

Hypnobirthing Australia is Australia’s fastest growing hypnobirthing program.

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